“If you’re a bird, I’m a bird.” If you’re an average high school female, chances are you know right away what movie I am referring to with this quote. For those of you who don’t, it comes from one of the most well-known romantic films of the last fifteen years. I am talking, of course, about The Notebook, a movie that inspired a slew of of couples to dress up as the main characters, Noah and Allie, every Halloween. I’m not trying to knock this movie. I’ve seen it more times than I can count.
But it’s just not realistic.
Instead of watching a movie about two people who fall in love against the backdrop of beautiful Charleston, South Carolina, only to be separated again years later by dementia (spoiler alert), I have another suggestion for all of you lovebirds this Valentine’s Day. One of my favorite movies of all time is When Harry Met Sally, which revolves around the idea that a guy and a girl can’t be friends without them ending up together, as attraction always seems to get in the way. Whether you agree with is or not, the movie follows the main characters, Harry and Sally, struggling with this concept as they transition from two people who initially hate each other, to friends that truly enjoy spending time with each other.
I’m not going to spoil the ending, but like most romantic movies, this one ends with a pretty happy ending. Both characters eventually realize that sometimes the best relationships start out by just being friends. And if you ask me, that is a far more relatable message for a bunch of high schoolers than a movie that tells the story of two teenagers from two different worlds. And because this is a column focused on words, When Harry Met Sally has some of the best quotes of all time. My personal favorite is towards the end of the movie, when after a fight, Harry finds Sally just before midnight to finally tell her how much he loves her. To which Sally responds, “You see, that is just like you Harry. You say these things and you make it impossible for me to hate you. And I hate you Harry… I really hate you.”
Except she doesn’t. And that’s exactly why I love this movie. It has its fair share of romance and the usual cliches that go along with it, but it is also very real. Sometimes love just comes out of nowhere, you don’t expect it, it’s not on the make. And sometimes it happens with the person you would least expect. They say the greatest relationships start out as being just friends, and I think I’d have to agree. Because at the end of the day, everyone wants someone who loves them, flaws and all. Not someone who compares them to a bird.